many young people who are bullied feel they can’t tell anyone, and instead “hide in the dark”, writes Scott Wright.
A lot of people don’t realise how hard it can be to communicate what’s wrong when you feel under pressure, stressed out or anxious – all common symptoms of bullying.
These powerful emotions can reduce self-esteem which is a horrible thing and can have long-term implications on how someone sees themself. Many victims of bullying have never told anyone because it isn’t easy. If people are lucky a parent/carer or teacher may notice that the victim is acting differently or has a different attitude towards themselves and others.
Physical bullying is often easiest to spot, but verbal bullying can be just as destructive. We also shouldn’t forget cyber-bullying where people might hide behind a mobile phone or computer and somehow think bullying is then more acceptable – it’s not, and is a police matter.
There are people out there who can help. Hard as it may seem, the best way to deal with bullies is to tell someone what’s happening. If this seems too difficult, websites offer advice and techniques on coping with the way you’re feeling and restoring the person you are.
Always remember that if you are being bullied or you are dwelling on past experiences: You are not the one with the problem, the bullies have the problem!